There Is a Lot of Pressure When You Get Engaged

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After you say “Yes” to the question “Will you marry me?,” be prepared to answer a lot more questions. And I mean A LOT. The second you tell someone that you’re engaged they will immediately start asking a million questions.

Some are fun to answer: “How did he do it?” “Can I see the ring?” “Were you surprised?”

Some will fill you with immediate dread because holy hell you don’t even know the answer to them. No, I do not know when we’re getting married. No, I do not know where we’re getting married. No, I do not know what color dresses my bridesmaids will wear. I just got engaged Aunt Lucy, take it down a notch.

After the high of getting engaged wears off, it is time to start thinking about what you want to do. And you start to realize that what you want does not always align with everyone else. Many people in your life don’t want to hear that you’re not sure you want to have a wedding. You might as well spit in your mom’s face cause it’s basically just as disrespectful. People expect a wedding even though they are not the ones paying for it.

And even if you thought you didn’t want a wedding, it’s hard not to get caught up in it all. The venues, the dresses, the flowers. It is all very magical. But do you know what else it is? SO. FRIGGEN. EXPENSIVE!

We all know weddings are expensive. But I never realized quite how expensive everything can be until I started looking at venues/vendors. Even when you cut out some of the unnecessary stuff like save the dates (I think save the dates are so ridiculous. I won’t get into it now, we’ll save that rant for another post) and thousands of dollars on flower arrangements, things still add up quickly.

If you decide to have a wedding, there are certain things you can’t cheap out on. Sure guests are not going to notice if your flower arch at the altar doesn’t have the highest quality flowers, but they will notice if you run out of drinks. If I do have a wedding and invite people, the most important thing for me is that they have a good time. Have you ever gone to a cash bar wedding or even worse, a dry wedding? I haven’t because if I did, there would have been several posts on this blog written by me bitching about how horrible the wedding was. I probably would have convinced a few of my friends to guest blog so they could give their input about how horrible of a wedding it was. I want my wedding to be a party for everyone so I wouldn’t want to cheap out on food, alcohol, and music.

And speaking of everyone, deciding who to invite and who not to invite to a wedding is all sorts of stressful. My dad’s side of the family is big. He has three sisters and two brothers, and they all have children. All of those children are older and most of them have significant others. In my opinion, it seems pretty harsh to pick and choose between aunts/uncles and cousins. Either you invite them all or you invite none. You won’t realize how many distant relatives you have until you get engaged. Your parents will insist you have to invite your second cousin’s aunt once removed.

I know a few people in recent years who have opted out of a big wedding altogether and just went down to city hall to get married. And I don’t blame them. I’m starting to think they have the right idea. No fuss, just your closest friends and family there, and the focus is on you and your spouse committing to one another.

No matter where you are in the wedding planning process, just remember to take a step back and breathe. You’re going to get pressure from your friends, family and even yourself. Try not to let it stress you out too much. Focus on what the wedding really means: you marrying the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.

*And yes this post does mean that yours truly has gotten engaged. It happened about a month ago and I couldn’t wait to share it with all my blogging friends! And whether we decide to go big or small, I’ll be sure to bring you all along with me every step of the way.



  1. Oh I know… it’s not easy to plan your wedding because of other people putting in their own thoughts in your OWN wedding. Like… it’s my time. Lol!

    But yay! Congratulations on your engagement! And thanks for sharing this great news to all of us :3

    1. Thanks! I am going to have to just work really hard to not listen to other people. If someone else insists I need to spend thousands of dollars on flowers, then they can pay for them.

      1. True. Let them pay for it since it’s so easy for them to tell you that. Lol. But seriously, hope they won’t stress you too much. And I hope you’ll have a beautiful wedding~~

  2. Ahhhh congratulations!!! I was so freaking excited to hear you got engaged and loved reading this so much!!

    First, it’s hilarious how many people ask you when the date is like, as SOON as you get engaged. I knew that was coming before you even wrote it hahaha. I think once you get engaged you never ask that question to people again. But you’re right, there are totally fun and annoying questions! They just keep coming throughout the wedding planning process haha.

    They are also so expensive. I have a million different things I’ve learned from planning a wedding, so feel free to DM me on Instagram or something if you need any help at all if you decide to have a wedding! The cost is definitely the most stressful part, and there are certain things I wished I spent less money on.

    Please please keep us posted throughout all of this. Being engaged is so exciting and regardless of what y’all decide to do, I’m so excited to see what the future has in store for the two of you in life. Congratulations to both of you!!! ❤

    1. Thank you so much. We have been talking to a few venues and even set up some tours so the planning will get into full swing. I know there are things I do not want to spend a lot of money on and things I don’t want to cheap out on. I am always interested to hear what those who already planned have to say. I may take you up on your offer and bother you with a million questions once we have a venue booked and really start planning everything else.

      1. Ahhh that is so so exciting!!! It’s smart to have one or two things you prioritize and then choosing things based on that. The Venue is one of the biggest things though and then you have a lot to work with! 😊 and PLEASE ask any and all questions because I love talking about this kind of stuff! 💕

  3. Congrats on your engagement!! The pressure never ends lol it goes from when are you getting engaged to questions about your wedding to when are you having kids?! ugh

    1. OMG I know I am going to get those kid questions the second I say “I do.” I already get it now cause in the eyes of the world I am not that young and moving farther away from my baby making days.

  4. If I could do it over again, I’d go to Europe and elope- and then spend my honeymoon there. The only thing I’d splurge on is a photographer- actually, no matter what kind of wedding you have, I think that’s the only thing worth splurging on 🙂


  5. Congratulations fellow blogger! That is amazing news. All the best and do what YOU want. and your partner of course. But mostly you. You are the bride to be. 💕

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